For a long time now we’ve been trying to raise awareness of the plight of hundreds of families trapped in New Zealand by the injudicious use of the Hague Convention on Parental Responsibility and Protection of Children. Please read Trapped In NZ – Father Won’t Let Child Leave and Huge Rise in Child Abduction Cases
Today we were contacted by Tijen Kizildere. Tijen is from Istanbul, Turkey and is living in Auckland with her daughter.
This young mother and her child are effectively trapped in New Zealand, she says an ex partner is preventing them from leaving. The police allegedly issued a protection order against the child’s abusive father. Perversely he is using child protection laws, drawn up under the Hague Convention, to trap them both in New Zealand.
To draw attention to her situation Tijen is going on hunger strike from the 15th July in Auckland’s Orakei Domain, she is also pleading with people to contact her if they are in a similar situation, or if they can help in any way.
There are hundreds of parents being held against their will in New Zealand because their partners refuse to give consent for their children to leave. In some cases these children were born into mixed marriages between kiwis and a foreigners, in others both parents are migrants.
It is a sad fact of life that New Zealand courts rarely award custody to any parent who wants to remove their child from the country and there is no favour shown towards giving custody to mothers, regardless of how unfit the father may be. With New Zealand’s horrendous record for child abuse what right thinking parent is going to abandon their child and leave without them? Hence, many are forced into staying against their will to protect their children or face the prospect of “abducting” them.
This is her message.
I will Start a HUNGER STRIKE ON THE 15 th OF JULY IN THE ORAKEI DOMAIN. ( The date me and my daughter were planning our trip)
I DEMAND MY FREEDOM AND THE FREEDOM OF MY CHILD . I AM REFUSING TO BE A PART OF A SYSTEM MISUSED BY BULLIES AND CRIMINALS .
I WANT JUSTICE . I WANT THE FREEDOM AS A TURKISH CITIZEN TO GO TO TURKEY. I WANT THE FREEDOM AS A MOTHER TO TEACH MY CHILD HER CULTURE AND HERITAGE .
I WANT TO BE RELEASED FROM MY IMPRISONMENT IN NEW ZEALAND BECAUSE I GAVE BIRTH HERE.
I WILL NOT BACK UP, WILL NOT STOP MY HUNGER STRIKE UNTIL I WILL DIE OR GET MY RIGHTS AS A MOTHER TO GIVE MY CHILD A FREEDOM TO LIVE
WITHOUT BEING BULLIED HER WHOLE LIVE.
TO PEOPLE WHO THINK what kind of mother goes on a hunger strike here is my answer:
A MOTHER WHO LOVES HER CHILD WILL FIGHT FOR HER FREEDOM . I REFUSE TO BE A PRISONER IN NEW ZEALAND / I REFUSE TO LEAVE MY CHILD BEHIND/
I REFUSE MY CHILD TO GROW UP WITHOUT MEETING HER GRANDPARENTS OR ANY RELATIVES / I REFUSE TO SEE MY CHILD SUFFER .
IF YOU ARE IN PRISON THE THINGS YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD ARE LIMITED
My name is Tijen Kizildere my daughter is Ilana Kizildere Sakgun born 3rd of November 2004.
Her father is T.S
I am in New Zealand since 2004 and since I arrived, I lived under constant threat and abuse of T.S
I had to stay in the Woman’s Refuge during my pregnancy .
This bullying and assault goes on since years but he started to use our Daughter after she was born to abuse and insult me even further,
constantly threatening me with separating me from my child.
I am the only person who does look after Ilana since nearly 6 years , I have the day to day care of my child. T.S refused to make any Parenting arrangements.
Refused to pay any Child Support. I didn’t get any support or Government hep during this 6 years.
Me and Ilana was granted a protection order against T.S by the Police.
He is using Ilana to keep me in New Zealand and punish me . I never could go back to visit my parents or my Country so didn’t Ilana.
My daughter has the right to learn her Culture and language .
Now he placed again an Order Preventing Removal of Child from New Zealand . Me and my daughter did let him know about our plans and he was happy for us to
go until again he changed his mind again.
I can not leave New Zealand as I have no family here in NZ to look after Ilana while I am away and I do not want to leave my daughter behind.
My daughter Ilana doesn’t want to stay with her father and I do not won’t her to stay with him neither as I do not trust him.
I have text messages and proof and people who would testify against what king of father he is.
I have text messages where he states that he can not come and see Ilana or take care of here as he is under medication.
But T.S can go and apply whenever he feels like to the family Cord for an emergency order to be made without letting me know or any investigation.
I DO NOT HAVE ANY ENERGY OR TIME LEFT TO DEAL WITH LAWYERS AND CORD HEARINGS , AS EVERY TIME HE IS BORED HE GETS LEGAL AID AND GOES TO CORD WITHOUT ACTUALLY WANTING ANYTHING.HE STEALS MY AND ILANA S TIME AND MONEY . LAST TIME THE CORD CASES FOR PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS TOOK NEARLY 1 YEAR AND HE WAS IN BREECH OF ALL THE ORDERS MADE. AND AGAIN NOTHING HAPPENED TO HIM . HE IS STEALING OUR LIFE AND TURNING IT INTO HELL WITHOUT GETTING PUNISHED OR BEING A FATHER TO ILANA .
Please call me if you have this kind of experiences or if you can help .
Phone: 021 183 0530