Continuing in our series of Migrant Tales – first hand accounts of the migrant experience of New Zealand, taken from locations around the net.
Today’s tale comes from ExpatExposed.com, a self help and support forum for emigrants to New Zealand, one of the very few un-moderated and not for profit New Zealand emigration forums left on the internet.
The author is an American woman married to a Kiwi. They are trying to escape from New Zealand second time round. She tells of the culture shock and difficulties they both suffered from upon returning to NZ, and of how Americans are regarded by Kiwis and expected to conform to the infamous and immutable ‘Kiwi Way’:
Close minded Kiwis ruined NZ for us
I must say I have met some really nice Kiwis and some rude ones. It seams the Nice ones have spent some considerable amount of time outside their own country e.g. Oz, UK, or USA. As for the rude ones they may have never left NZ or Have taken short trips to oz not spending more then 2 weeks away. So when I say I have issues with New Zealand and its Kiwis its more to do with the rude ones.
My MIL is a classic Kiwi as she is very proud to live in this hell hole. BTW I think its cause of people like her that make this place a Hell Hole. Most Kiwis are close minded people who believe that song “We Don’t know how Lucky we are”. As for my MIL she thinks that all Americans are loud like the guy off of Extrema Home Make Over and wishes they would just shut up. For she and others who are so proud of the kiwi way feel that if you live in NZ then you need to conform to the NZ way. As Far as i can see that means Bend over and take it up the rear end when it comes to everything. Food is over priced well its the conversion rate so bend over. Most Clothing Cost $50-$100 per item, Bend over. It doesn’t matter if it makes life easier, don’t do it that way cause kiwis don’t do that.
My Husband and I are HUGE internet users and use the internet for almost all of our needs e.g. Phone, banking, entertainment. So we expect great service but instead we get customer service that doesn’t care and People all around who just accept it(bending over). My Mom live in Nevada and is a costumer of Charter. Charter Provides her TV and internet. With this crap economy she called up her customer service and told them she can’t afford them any more. They immediately do everything they can to keep her as a customer giving her any and all deals they can find. They take care of her and she can stay with them for a further 3 months cause of the service they provided and she gets better internet and TV, e.g. Faster internet speeds and Free HBO and showtime.
Yes My home Country America has its Issues but we are more open minded then the average Kiwi. Never once did we tell my husband to stop being kiwi and to do it the american way. He missed NZ Pies we tried to find a way to make or get him NZ pies. He missed his weet-bix and Milo we would drive 4 hours so he could stock up on supplies. He missed those god awful fish and chips we would try and find something as close to match. When you move to NZ they don’t care and just say “Your in New Zealand now and we don’t have that stuff”
When I First lived in New Zealand(December 03 to October 05) i was 18 and they had just about won me over and I was ready to be a Kiwi. Once Me and my husband were married he wanted to see what it was like Living in the USA as he had only spent 6 months there. after about a year and a half he started to miss NZ and once we had been their for two years we decided to move back. He was really home sick and i couldn’t stand to see him that way so once we had lived in the USA for 3 year we moved back to NZ. It took us about 1 month to realized we had made a huge mistake but we weren’t ready to openly admit it. We both were suffering massive Culture shock and Hearing “Your not in America any more your in New Zealand now” didn’t really help at all. His family wasn’t very helpful or supportive of us at all and getting jobs took us about 7 months. Any money we had that could have helped us escape we spent trying to get jobs and living on our own as his family was driving us nuts. his parents told us we could live with them till we were able to get jobs.
So now we are trying to save up for the day we escape this place for a warmer climate.
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