Wanganui Girl’s College Student Bled From Ears – updated

Further details have emerged of the sickening attack on a 15 year old Wanganui Girl’s College student, Robin de Jong,  that we reported on on 20 March. See Another School Attack Hospitalises Student

Video of the assault shows another pupil of Wanganui Girl’s College pushing her victim to the ground, kicking her in the back and stamping on her head.

Watch an interview with Robin de Jong here in which she says that the beating was as a result of a stabbing threat that had been made against her at school and her making a complaint to the principal that got back to her attacker.

The mother and daughter are speaking out in the hope that getting this issue out and dealt with will prevent it from happening to any more children in New Zealand’s schools. No more dirty little secrets, no more keeping quiet and pretending this sort of thing doesn’t go on.

Police say the violence they saw in the video is similar to that they see in male gangs.

A parent at the school also saw the video, said he was sickened by the violence and told the Wanganui Chronicle that his family had considered taking their children out of the school, but

We’ve considered the safety of our girls but it’s pretty hard because bullying like this happens in every school.

“But this is the worst thing I’ve ever seen..

It seems that there is no end to this violence in New Zealand.

Is this because parents simply withdraw their children from problem schools because they believe the school is powerless to deal with it? The result being that the bullies are never challenged for their behaviour and the cycle of violence is never broken. It seems the only solution is for affected families to shut up and leave.

Education minister Anne Tolley told the NZ Herald that parents need to take more responsibility for the actions of their children

“Behaviour issues shouldn’t be left to schools to deal with on their own. Parents should also take responsibility.

“Any kind of bullying is unacceptable, and this is an issue which the whole school community has to address.”

“Schools aren’t immune to the rise in violent behaviour which has taken place in society, and the vast majority of schools have robust plans in place to deal with it.”

But how can they take responsibility when victims remain silent, are quietly withdrawn from school or are consigned to solitary confinement in school offices.

It’s not just the students that bully either, only this week a teacher of 6-7 year olds was found guilty of assaulting the children in his care. What are children learning in classes like his about respect and tolerance for other people.

Why are we hearing of more and more incidents of bullying, why are assaults like these escalating. Will it take the death of a child to get New Zealand to take this problem seriously.

The injured girl’s mother says

“[Schools] can only punish [students who bully] with expelling them and to me that’s not enough.

“These kids know they won’t get arrested because they’re too young. That’s why they do it.

The woman said parents also had some responsibility for their children’s behaviour.

She described the attitude of the parents of the alleged attacker as “very disappointing”.
“If my daughter was the one doing the bullying, I’d put a stop to it. I’d see it as my responsibility too.”

Looks like no-one is accepting responsibility and things can only get worse.

Update 4 April 2011

Police crime statistics released at the beginning of April 2011 showed the number of children under 9 apprehended for assaults in 2010 was 64, almost double the 33 recorded in 2009.

Assaults  in the 10-13 age group also rose, with 827 apprehensions in 2010, compared to 70 in 2009. The majority of offenders were boys. Read Crime shock: NZ’s little thugs on the NZ Herald’s site

Are you outside of NZ and want to know more? Read some of the reactions to the assault on a NZ forum here and here

For further reading about New Zealand’s culture of bullying and violence click here, or click on some of those stories below. For our Stats and Facts page relating to Children’s issues  and Education in New Zealand click here:

Have you experienced bullying in New Zealand, how was it dealt with and what was the outcome? Leave your comments on any of our bullying threads.

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Social issues in the wider community

Post on a NZ forum, 24 March 2011:

My partner has been bullied at her work work for the last 2 yrs and all complaints seem to fall on deaf ears. Complaints have been made by several of the staff (also victims of this bully) to managment but nothing is ever done about the complaints.On several occasions the bully has been caught ( and I mean red handed)stealing from the work place and again nothing is done.. At one stage the union was notified and bought in but again nothing is done…My partner is so stressing out over all of this and has no one to turn to. The bully in this case is also a good freind of the manager in the work place…What can we do??? I have had enough of my partner coming home complaining and I cant do anything to make it any better for her… Please help!!!

Reply: One thing you need to understand is that management/authorities don’t give a toss about work place bullies. What is said is simply lip service to make the vicims feel safe. Lay a complaint and you become the instigator, Bosses simply do not wish to deal with it and know that the victim will eventually leave and the problem is solved. Find another job and leave It is the only satisfactory remedy. Save your sanity, Another typical New Zealand I don’t give a shit buisness.

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9 thoughts on “Wanganui Girl’s College Student Bled From Ears – updated

  1. i think dais have a good point, but on the other hand, schoool bullying is discusting in our community, especially now that people won’t want to send there child to Wanganui Girls’ College, its gotten a very bad name. our hostel and Girls’ College won’t get more people at this rate. Police in our community need to come down hard in the long run.

  2. yous dont even know what your talking about. STOP blaming her parents. its the schools fault. they could of stop this but there useless. it makes me sick yous over react.

  3. Charming, no doubt you and your mate are two of a kind.

    Michael Laws named the assailant and you’re uspet at that a friend of yours has been named and shamed.

    Were you there when the video was taken, if not how do you know what went on?

    If you were there why didn’t you do anything to stop your friend from viciously attacking another person and why aren’t the police talking to you too?

    Perhaps you should take more care in chosing your friends, why not get out and do something positive for your community.

    Time to stop the violence, why not start with yourself? (the rest of your disgusting comments will not be published)

  4. i go to girls college, and this whole thing hasn just blowen up , its so pathetic get over it. Micheal laws speaks a lot of cence, I respect him a lot.

  5. half of you people dont even know these people involved, all you did was read what happend and saw it on th news, im mates with th chick who did it , and it was nothing near as bad as what there saying . so shut up.

  6. In my home country, I do not know if there would be a public debate as to whether teachers should moonlight as hookers or not. It would be a no-brainer.

  7. It’s actually a bit hilarious, asking the people with the “real world” experience to teach children… we are talking about the set of teachers that happen to either be boozers, serial bed-jumpers, relational aggressors and with the “no. 8 wire” mentality?
    No, I think what has happened to many of the people taking up teaching in NZ, is that it is seen as a soft touch, low requirements course. Their grasp of ethics and morality from what I saw at University was appalling (this is from the first decade of 2000, folks).
    The other factor to consider is the hugely deep-seated misandry in NZ. Where boys are told “never cry” and girls are told “you can do nothing wrong”. Do you see what kind of problems that creates?
    Boys who get bullied plenty and stupidly learn to take it until they crack or commit suicide, inadequate or uncaring counsellors blinded by a culture of physicality.
    Girls who can do no wrong, and the modern ladettes of the future.
    Oh well, society reflects the behaviour that people are allowed to get away with, or encouraged to emulate (in this case, it would be not exercising morality or restraint, and flaunting ignorance and ruthlessness).

  8. Oh my goodness this just shocking to read what poor Robin de Jong went through. No child should go through what Robin experienced. To the de Jong family: kia kaha and my support is with you all the way. I hope the school will not only wake up but also take bullying seriously. As for the bully at the school (you know who you are), shame on you for making Robin’s time in school a pure living hell and you are no better than a street thug who preys on the weak and innocent. Since Robin didn’t hurt you or do anything horrible on you, what gives you the right to stomp and kick her? If you don’t like one blogger condemning your actions against Robin, too bad for you because it is the hard truth! You are the one who needs to change your bad attitude before you grow up to become tomorrow’s scum of society.

  9. Some victims are powerless if they fight back (as in this case) the situation would have seen this girl possibly killed !! Bullies need to feel consequence (e.g stood up in front of the assembly.Parents need to be made responsible as a owner of a rampant dog would be. Schools need a place/system where victims can report bullying and receive counsel. Social media has raised awareness and the public consciousness of this problem so why is Wanganui high trying to censor it – other than it makes them look bad. Also having only teachers with a university background is like having bill gates in charge of the Mongrel Mob -open up the teaching profession to people with real world experience and see the change time to WAKE UP NZ!!!

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