Bullying In NZ Schools – “A Harsh Lesson”

Readers may remember one of our Migrants’ Tales – “ A Better Life for the Kids

Written by Steve, he spoke about  a widespread and insidious problem within schools in New Zealand  – bullying.

When his children were bullied at a fee paying school the school’s way of dealing with the problem seemed to be to simply exclude the victims, not the bullies. The law, as it stands, allows private schools to operate with minimum government regulation and they are free to exclude children as they see fit.

Steve’s family isn’t alone in their experience of a school failing to deal effectively with bullying behaviour:  The NZ Human Rights Commission recently released a report that identified significant human rights issues in relation to violence in New Zealand Schools.

An organisation called Stop the Violence is just one of many working hard to raise awareness of the issue and to provide support.

Cindy Ciro, New Zealand’s Children’s Commissioner, was once quoted as saying:

“It appears that we do have high levels of physical and emotional bullying in New Zealand schools in comparison to other countries. This is historical. We’ve had this for quite some time in our schools.”

Even the police recognise bullying as a “big problem in New Zealand“.

The ‘harden-up / blame the victim / culture of brutality’  is a contributing factor to the country having one of the worst teen and young person suicide rates in the world, 94 youths in New Zealand committed suicide in 2007.

Steve’s story gives you an indication of why the problem exists and why it’s not going away any time soon. By way of an ongoing update we’d like to showcase an article that appeared in today’s The Aucklander, written by Sean Gillespie

“Harsh lesson

Angel Garden’s 8-year-old daughter learned some tough lessons at school last year. She found out that complaining about a group of boys bullying her might get her kicked out of school – and her two younger sisters would also be given their marching orders.

It was also a tough lesson for the girls’ mum and dad. Ms Garden and Steve Paris had no idea Titirangi Steiner Kindergarten and School could exclude their children without notice or need for justification.

Ms Garden says it’s crazy that some private schools can legally evict people without notice or warning and with no chance to appeal. “Our eldest child loved the curriculum and we were determined to help her thrive there by making her class the safe environment the school claims it was.”

The school investigated the alleged bullying but found no cause for concern.

Ms Garden says the school eventually, and with no warning, asked the family not to return. “When we went to the school to demand an explanation, on the record, for this sudden and violent action, they refused to talk to us, issued us with trespass notices and called the police within minutes of our arrival.

Our children, especially our eldest, have been severely affected by their treatment here, to the extent that we are seeking help for them.”

Principal Mark Thornton says the decision to sever ties with the family had nothing to do with their children’s behaviour.

“Because we’re a private school, parents ask us if we will accept their children. We got to the point where we were no longer willing to accept the children because of the behaviour of the parents.”

After they were made aware of the bullying, Ms Garden and Mr Paris made an agreement with a teacher to come to the school for two weeks to watch over their daughter.

Mr Thornton says this had made staff, children and other parents uncomfortable. “Those intrusions were too frequent and were damaging to the school life.” He says there had also been a difference of opinion between the school and the family on student behaviour management. This contributed to the school decision to no longer accept the children, he says.

Education laws allow private non-integrated schools such as the Titirangi Steiner School to operate with minimal government regulation. Unlike their public counterparts, these schools may expel students as they see fit.

Ms Garden says many parents who send their children to private schools aren’t aware of this. She’s campaigning for compulsory disclaimers by the schools stating to parents their rights, and for greater checks and balances in disciplining children.

The family have support in seeking change. In 2008, the  Government asked the Law Commission to review the law as it related  to private schools.

Last year, the commission recommended changes. Some were drafted into a proposed law last month but others were not. One which failed to make the final cut was a requirement for private schools, when suspending or expelling a pupil, to give parents adequate notice and the opportunity to speak on their children’s behalf.

Asked why this was excluded from the bill, Associate Education Minister Heather Roy, of Act,  told Parliament on June 11: “Legislating for these requirements would be unnecessary because natural justice and contract law already cover this area.”

Another axed recommendation would have made schools reveal, on request, their disciplinary procedures to pupils and their parents when faced with suspension, exclusion or expulsion.

However, Ms Roy said: “No evidence exists to suggest that there are any problems with how private schools currently make disciplinary procedures available to students and parents.”

We’re staggered to read that last statement, is that that no evidence exists – or that none has been taken seriously?

Ms Garden disputes this. She had spent one and half months late last year putting together a 20-page document detailing her family’s plight. This was sent  to the Ministry of Education.

It will be very interesting to see how that document is received, hard evidence should be hard to ignore. What action, if any, will be taken?

Despite feeling ignored after a year of fighting the issue, Ms Garden and Mr Paris are far from ready to give up. They are producing a documentary called The Titirangi Three which will address school bullying and whether the law governing our education system is adequate.

Under supervision

While I interviewed Angel and Steve on the public road outside Titirangi Steiner School, a staff member drove up slowly beside us, wound down her window and asked gruffly if we needed help. We said no, and she drove into the school and parked. She then walked past and stood over us, arms folded, staring. I felt uncomfortable and ended the interview. I asked if she would like to say anything. She said no, and walked away. The photographer and I couldn’t help but be bemused that, while doing an interview about bullying at the school, a teacher behaved in a manner that appeared to us to be confrontational. – Sean Gillespie.

One can only imagine how the children must feel.

We suggest that other parents who have had similar experiences to Steve and Angel’s also write to the Ministry of Education. We wish the family all the best in their endeavours to  bring about a much needed change.

A petition calling for Compulsory Disclaimers for PNi Schools in New Zealand may be found here. One signatory left the following comment:

Name: Anna Sutton on Apr 24, 2010
Comments: Our family has had a similar experience with a school and similar outcomes. We moved our child out of the school when it became clear the management style was to try and keep everything under wraps until the problems disappeared when the bullies or victims moved on. I support your stand and simply point to New Zealand’s appalling record of school bullying. Something has to change for the better. Good luck with everything.

3 thoughts on “Bullying In NZ Schools – “A Harsh Lesson”

  1. My child was a contemporary of the girl who wrote this story about bullying http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff-nation/assignments/the-faces-of-bullying-in-nz/8929871/I-thought-the-bullying-would-never-end
    and attended the same school.

    I would just like to say that it is
    not just the students who bully but the teachers also. The teachers
    relied on bullying to maintain order in the class and to ensure
    they were top of the pecking order.

    When pupils had the courage to complain, often with the backing of their parents the teacher in charge forced them to sign retractions and used intimidation to ensure no further complaints were made.
    For two years my child had to endure the most appalling thuggery and mental abuse from child and adult alike at that school.

    It wasn’t until after we’d left the country that the stories slowly
    came out about this intermiedate school. Iwas horrified, believe
    me if we were still in New Zealand I would be suing the school for
    compensation to pay for the counseling bills and trauma my child
    went through. God help the children who must still be

    If you or someone you know is suffering abuse at school please try to find help and don’t give up until you have exhausted every avenue. If you are a parent who cannot get the help your child needs why not join the thousands of parents in New Zealand who home school their children.

  2. Yesterday my wee DS came home from school saying that he had learned a “trick” to avoid all the Kiwi bullies out on his playground. He said he always told them he “didn’t care what they did to him. They could do anything to him they wanted, and he didn’t care where they buried his body either”. I was aghast. I said “What sorts of things are they saying to you!” and he replied that they weren’t actually allowed to do anything to him at school or they would get into trouble – and they knew it. They were simply intimidating him. That was his way of calling their bluff. But what must they be saying to him, for him to think he had to say those helpless-sounding things, and hide in the classroom when he should be out playing! This is a decile 7 school in a supposedly “nice” area. Last year was not a bully year; however, this one is shaping up to be…and the one before that was, as well. He is not of the age yet where it “really gets bad” according to what the other migrant mums say, which is around 10 or so. But I fear for him when he reaches that age.

  3. I read in the mental health org newsletter

    “New Zealand ranks second worst among 37 countries when it comes to bullying in primary schools, according to a major international report released at the end of 2008. Almost three quarters of around 5000 New Zealand Year Five students said they had been bullied in the preceding month, the Trends In International Mathematics And Science Study found. The country’s rates were more than 50% above the international average.”

    That is a very high percent.

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