Readers may remember the recent article about the crime ridden, down-at-heel township of Tokoroa being unable to attract a doctor, even with the offer of a $400,000 salary and 12 weeks of annual leave.
The news obviously struck a chord with the UK’s Daily Telegraph who used the impetus to re-publish a blog by journalist Peter Foster.
Foster moved his family to New Zealand eight years ago. In 2009 he wrote about how he “was driven bonkers” in the space of two weeks in Takaka, and left NZ after a year.
Interestingly, Foster made the same mistake as many migrants to New Zealand – he believed the hype about the lifestyle, took a massive drop in salary and moved to what he thought was paradise. In reality it turned out to be as dull as ditch-water and as boring as hell. However, he’s glad he gave it a go – it was an experience.
If there’s anything that can be learned from Foster’s experience it is this – New Zealand doesn’t have to be for life, if you’re attracted to it give it a go by all means but don’t sink your life savings into the place. Give it a try for a couple of years max and retain the wherewithal to move on at the end. As our readers will tell you, it can be a miserable, soulless, career ending place to be trapped in especially if you have children and aren’t allowed take them home or out of the country.
After-all, over one million Kiwis live abroad, that must tell you something. People with get up and go do exactly that.
Here it is again.
It was one morning during the school run that I finally realised that life in paradise wasn’t for me. There are no traffic jams in heaven, just an undulating bike ride to the local kindergarten through fields of buttercups and vanilla fudge cows.
On the back of the bike the first-born yabbers away as only a soon-to-be-four-year-old can; bleating at the newborn lambs and pointing upwards into a firmament as blue as the gaze of the late Paul Newman.
“Look Daddy,” he says, brimming with the joys of a New Zealand spring, “It’s a skylark? Can you hear him?” I could, and yet much as I wished to share in the boy’s innocent enthusiasm for the birdlife, my own mood was decidedly unlarklike. In fact, if I’d had a gun, I’d have taken pleasure in blasting it from the sky.
It so wasn’t meant to be like this. After a decade scrumming it in big cities – six years in London, four in New Delhi – moving to Golden Bay in the garden of New Zealand was supposed to be a dream existence.
The idea was to take our young family from a sooty suburb in New Delhi (pop. 20 million) to the tiny rural town of Takaka (pop. 1,182) on the South Island and prove there really was more to life than career ladders, commuting and dropping the kids at daycare. (I’m still haunted by the London friend who said he didn’t know what his son liked to eat because he “usually ate at nursery”.)
So while our metropolitan mates were spinning like fretful mice in their wheels, we aspired to a broader view of the world – earning much less (just enough to get by) but enjoying ourselves far more. After all, it doesn’t cost anything to walk on the beach or swim in the sea and, if you know where to look, there are plenty of free lunches to be had – fish from the ocean and fresh veggies from the garden.
If we were a little smug, it was only because we thought we were daring to be different.
Perhaps too different. Golden Bay has always attracted its fair share of refugees from reality. In the 19th century it was gold rushers, in the Sixties the first hippies, in the Nineties the “end of the world is nigh” millennium crowd and, most recently, a species of green-minded folk looking for a quiet place to grow vegetables while the world sleepwalks into ecological Armageddon.
It is, quite literally, the end of the earth (which was the point) but at times during the past year, standing on the beautiful beach at the bottom of our garden, I did start to wonder if I might topple off without anybody actually noticing. Being awake while the rest of the world is asleep is not healthy for lifelong news junkies.
It’s deeply annoying to admit it, but the metro-mate naysayers (smug themselves, we thought) have been proved correct. “You’ll go bonkers in a week,” they said. They were only half-right. It took me at least two. Growing the perfect runner bean and baking dates scones have their undeniable satisfactions, as does catching your red snapper at sunset and pounding the deserted windswept beaches.
But there is a limit. And now, I’m faintly ashamed to say, I have discovered it. So while it’s wonderful for young children to have their father around all day, a father’s not much use if he’s become a lunatic lark-slayer.
More seriously, I hope they will forgive me for taking them back to a high-rise city and they’ll adjust again to the long hours ahead of dad disappearing into his office. No doubt there’s a balance out there – somewhere – but this year I didn’t find it.
None of which is to say that we regret a single second of our year-long stay in Golden Bay. Life turned out exactly as billed, but in the end it just felt different from how I’d hoped it would. We’ve made good friends and grown stronger as a family, learning plenty of new things about each other – good and not so good – and gained a healthily broad perspective on life. I’ll never forget the daily walks on the beach, the afternoons foraging and exploring and the evenings fishing off the rocks. Each and every experience, even the skylarks on the school run, has been wonderful, magical – and yet… and yet.
Whisper it softly, but bliss is, well – I’ll say it straight out – boring as hell. Or should that be boring as heaven? After a year in the pristine seclusion of Golden Bay tending the veg plot, I crave the infernal stink of the big city and the juice-inducing competition of the rat race.
If that’s a measure of my own shortcomings as a human being, then so be it, but I’m afraid Julian Barnes had heaven bang on in the sublime climax of A History of the World in 10 Chapters when his narrator wakes from a dream to find himself “on the other side”.
At first everything is gratifyingly brilliant.
Breakfast is so perfect he eats it again for lunch and dinner, in between shooting 18 around every golf course in the world; winning a Grand Slam at tennis and scoring a blistering but elegant 750 not out against Australia at Lord’s.
But in the end, living his dream life is a strangely empty experience. “Why do we have these dreams of Heaven?” he asks his celestial shrink. And she replies. “Perhaps, because you need them… because you can’t get by without the dream. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It seems quite normal to me. Though I suppose if you knew about Heaven beforehand, you might not ask for it.” source
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13 thoughts on ““Whisper it softly” New Zealand is “As Boring as Hell””
I am not so sure whether living rurally or living in the cities would make much of a difference. Kiwis are everywhere and so is there stink attitude. We live in a rural town and once you’ve seen all the sites around, it’s boring. We’ve lived in Auckland too, it was exactly the same. The difficulty was that we’re practically friendless, because here in the farm town are few immigrants, and the Kiwis are very clicky. To top it off, they constantly do what I hate with a passion: gossip, discuss other people. In that respect I’m an intense admirer of Eleanor Roosevelt who said,”Large minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; and small minds discuss people.”
I have lived my life according to these principles since I was a little girl, but only discovered this quote at the age of 15. The juvenility of the Kiwis, from older teenagers to those almost reaching retirement age, disgust and revolt me when they come to work or University on Monday with hangovers and grand tales to share of over-imbibing at a party of the house of someone they barely know, and bragging about the amount of times they sowed pizzas all over the person’s couch, the family dog (how the dog lapoed it up), and how the blazed a fiery trail down the passage to the nearest bedroom where they found so-and-so from accounts doing that… Really? Then Intermediate school asks me if it’s omay for their teachers to instruct my 12-year-old son about sex, yes, I’ve heard about how both girls and boys have to practice for three years consecutively to put condoms on erect wooden penises during these classes.
What?! Where are there moral code? When do they teach that?
One day my teenage daughter saw American sign-language used on television during the news while the American President was delivering a speech. She was so fascinated with it and immediately wanted to know whether NZ had their own sign language and if she could study it through the Correspondence School. Yes, she is schooled at home due to bullying and anxiety attacks following the incidents.
Before I could help myself, I said to her,’Darling, the Kiwis have their own sign language, it’s much simpler to learn than the American sign language. Here in NZ they only use one finger, and it’s usually while they find themselves in the traffic or on the road.’
We have been here now for 20 years and I have progressed from a social butterfly to a misanthropist. I wonder why…
Like yourself I am raising my kids here. A couple of years ago my child had 13 and 14 year old class mates sleeping around and going to parties, drinking and all of that. Other class mates are into cutting themselves. I am consumed with fear rather than being bored. I complain to people about this and get told “we all did that stuff growing up and turned out ok”. Actually no, I didn’t grow here so had a sheltered up bringing compared what I am having to navigate my kids through. The media say that NZ teenagers are the most sexually promiscuous in the world and no one is bothered.
Do that stuff or turn out ok? This is Dunedin so there are a lot of parties and easy access for teenagers. School kids want to go to Student parties and put the pictures of themselves drinking and behaving badly on social media. The peer pressure in intense.
That…..balcony news where awful lot (triple the maximum capacity of balcony) were apparently ‘grooving’ to a music. Tax payers money was again wasted in taking those totally wasted drunk students to hospital.
Durex did a survey a while ago and found that New Zealand women are not only promiscuous, but New Zealand is the only country in the world where women are more promiscuous than men, and by a considerable amount:
And here is the typical New Zealand media spin saying it’s okay:
“Turned out to be ok”???? Yeah OK.
This will be one of the best Tui ad punch liner 😀
gossip, discuss other people
There seems to be a disproportionate amount of time and effort spent on this particular activity. I think it stems from a lack of anything else to do and a “small” mindset. An awful lot gets said and discussed. I’ve heard it and of it from kiwi acquaintances.
I’d not say I’ve become a misanthrope, but I generally prefer my own company due to lack of suitable or engaging alternatives.
“The art of Gossip” is so much prevalent in NZ, if you don’t add to the ‘goss’ then you will be called ‘anti-social’ by the local definition 🙂
I know of few migrant couples that have completely given up idea on starting a family, their main fear was with the amount of bullying that goes in the school. All these families come from educated and cultured background, all such people fall into the higher tax bracket and the Robinhood government steals from them to support the ones that are multiplying like rabbits, partying, drinkings, bullying others and fighting on the streets for no apparent reason at all.
Observe that the leadership ensures their own children “mix with the right people” while everybody else is encouraged to “step outside your clique”, and you come to understand that they’re trying to do some eugenics on the regular or not-leadership people. The requirement for a large underclass is necessary for a few to live very well … but of course, don’t forget to take care of the police and the military too, for a long rule.
Where have I heard that one before?
God I feel for you ,I miss my friends ,I speak Basic French and pretty good Spanish used to go to Santa Monica pier every Tuesday and watch live bands while sitting on the beach with kids families and friends ,Kiwis would take the opportunity to riot get revolting drunk and harras the people next to them ,God I miss civilisation
I wonder what would be this guys feelings ,had he moved to Auckland instead.
Same no doubt ,just bored ,stick in traffic,scared and paying high rates
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